How Do You Know If You Love Someone
Love is a tricky thing to master, most of us don’t necessarily know that we love until we look at our relationships in retrospect. Family is a prime example of this, we are born and raised without any conscious knowledge of what love is and it’s only after we start to process the abstract concept of love that we can actually comprehend what the words “I Love You” mean.
It’s no wonder that we struggle with figuring out if we love someone in the dating world given the abstract, and varying nature of love. If you’re unsure, look at your behavior, this is the best way to determine love before you say it out loud.
7 Signs That You Love Someone:
The more of these signs that you recognize in your own behavior the more likely it is that you are in love.
Do You Find Yourself Constantly Worried About What They Think Of You?
This is, at the very least, a sign that you like them and respect their opinion. You want to know that they approve of you and, because of this, you worry that they don’t. This is extremely common at the beginning of a relationship and often continues up until the first “I Love You” or beyond. Insecurity is very normal in romantic relationships and it’s okay that you worry, but try not to worry too much and try to get a handle on your insecurities as you can as they can be a big problem as the relationship progresses.
Know that if you’re worried about what the other person thinks though, it’s a sign that you care about, and possibly love them.
Do You Wish For Their Happiness?
Hoping that somebody else is happy is generally a strong sign of caring. As a parent, I can tell you that my desire for a better life for my daughter is one of the most powerful driving forces I’ve ever experienced. I wish her happiness so much that I am willing to change my life, put in effort I wouldn’t have otherwise, and seek help where I wouldn’t have before. These are all things that are challenging to do on your own but when motivated by love they become so easy that it’s almost laughable.
If the happiness of your partner motivates you to change aspects of your life or accept circumstances you wouldn’t have otherwise, it’s quite likely that you are in love. If your partner is unhappy and you feel their pain, this is also a sign that you are in love. The more connected we become, the more you will feel the emotions of your partner.
Are You Expressing Multiple Love Languages?
There are 5 primary love languages (touch, words of affirmation, gifts, quality time, and acts of service), but we generally only express one or two well. When in a romantic relationship though, we naturally express all 5 without much effort. If you take some time and look at the kinds of behaviors you have expressed around your partner, you may discover that you are expressing most, if not all, of these love languages. The more you express, the more likely you are in love. While not always true, the expression of love languages is one of the surest signs that you are in love.
Does It Ache When You Think Of Life Without Them?
Pain, while unpleasant, is one of the truest signs of connection. When you consider your life without someone and you feel pain, you can be sure that you are very connected to them emotionally. The connection is, in fact, so intense that it can cause physical pain, or harm, as well.
While a sign of love, this sign can also indicate dependence. And while dependence isn’t necessarily a bad thing, you want to be wary and make sure to check in with people outside your relationship to make sure you aren’t missing red flags that could cause problems in the future. Learning how to be dependent and independent is a skill that takes time to master, but it’s one that you defiantly should work on when you get the chance.
Know, though, that if you feel pain when you think about losing someone, it’s a strong indicator that you are in love.
Do They Express Multiple Love Languages With You?
Similar to how you express multiple love languages when you are in love, the expression of multiple love languages in the part of your partner will increase the love you feel for them. Love is something that we all need to be expressed to us and the more our need for love is met, the more grateful we are to the people who express love to us most often.
If you feel grateful, or feel loved, by your partner, the chances are good that you care and/or love them too.
Would You Be Okay With Having Children Or A Home With Them?
If you consider the future and enjoy the idea of having children or sharing a home with this person, the chances are very high that you are in love. This is especially true if you never considered having children before or tend toward a nomadic lifestyle. As someone with both of these tendencies, I can tell you that my willingness to have a child with my husband was one of the strongest indicators that I was in love.
Do You Feel Stronger Or More Capable Around Them?
This is a big one and a sign that you have a healthy relationship. If this person inspires you to better, encourages you, and makes you feel like you can handle anything, you are more than likely in love. Love is the basis of our lives and the more love we feel, the more capable and creative we actually are. If you feel supported, and express support for your partner, you are, almost assuredly, in love.
How Do You Know If You Love Someone FAQs
Is It Possible To Have These Signs And Not Be In Love?
Technically yes, but it’s unlikely, especially in regard to the last sign. If you see all these signs in your life though, I doubt it’s going to be long before you genuinely are in love. Love is a process, it grows with time, so give it some time and you’re likely to be in love.
What If You Don’t Have Many Of These Signs, Does It Mean You Aren’t In Love?
Technically no, although I would start to question whether you’re more dependant upon your partner than you are in love. Obsession can easily be interpreted as love and it can be really hard to distinguish between the two. In some regards, I would say that all love starts with at least a bit of obsession as well, but as time continues, in a healthy relationship, it matures into something more stable and comforting (as obsession and insecurity go hand in hand).
What If I Can’t Tell Which Signs I Have?
I would recommend working on your self-awareness and happiness. Becoming emotionally aware isn’t necessarily an easy thing to do either, but if you take the time to figure out who you are and how you feel on a regular basis, the chances are high that you’ll start to recognize these signs in your life.
How Can I Better Prepare Myself For Love?
Release grudges and work on becoming the best person that you can be. There’s a saying that in order to find the person you want, you first must be the person that they deserve (be the person that you want to attract).
How Do You Know If You Love Someone Summary
Love isn’t just one thing for any person. In a psychology class I was in we had a discussion about what love is and I don’t believe any two of us had the same definition. One of the truest things I’ve found about love though is that love can always be created and expressed through action. You can choose to love someone and create that love within yourself.
Usually, we create love in ourselves unconsciously, expressing our care through the five love languages. The more that you do for someone else, generally, the greater the feelings of love you create in yourself. So, if you’re questioning your love for a spouse, try doing more things on their behalf if you want to create a greater connection between you two once more.
Love is not always obvious, but with these signs, you can be sure that you’re getting close to, if not already, in love.
I wish you luck in all your future relationships and in love,
