Guys often think ‘what is the perfect thing to say to a girl to get her interested in me’. Some even go to the lengths of writing down word for word the script of what to say. There are many tutorials available in the line of pickup lines relating to the different progressions of the conversation. Starting with the opener moving to the number close or whatever your aim is.
Starting out in kamalifestyles we recommend looking at very basic scripts. This is a useful crutch if your mind goes blank. Putting all this aside we concentrate more on removing the negative beliefs that make you nervous in the first place. Think of it if you’re at home with your family or friends you can comfortably say just about anything to them really be yourself and not get caught up with what should I say. This concept is a far stretch for some guys starting out.
The basics are the ‘opening conversation’. We look to make this as simple as possible for our students A regular opening I still use to this day and I teach my clients to say is ‘Do you know where Starbucks is’. As simple as it sounds this starts the conversation. With good body language this can prove effective for establishing whether I should move forward with the conversation.
If I feel someone is will and very receptive to help me I will then use a transition such as ‘wow you’re really cute’. The important thing here is only say it if you mean it. If you follow this rule it will come across very genuine and the girl will of course be very happy to get a compliment from such a good looking guy such as myself or yourself. This really isn’t rocket science the simpler the better. There are however a huge amount of variables at play that we are very receptive to noticing such as if you compliment the girl and she does some smiling and hair touching this can be very good signs she at that point in time is attracted to you. It’s only by being mindful of her body language that you can notice this.
As you get more and more comfortable primarily by applying the many exercises in NLP to allow yourself to become more comfortable and realize what a really great guy you already are then you will start getting a much better response from talking to girls. Our aim is to bring out the best you. Once this starts happening you won’t have to think about what to say it will just happen naturally. Then people will call you a natural but you will know that this is not true, I learnt this. Everything can be learnt if we just break it down into a simple easy to understand group of steps and have the correct mindset.
In a nut shell it doesn’t matter what you say it’s how you say it if you’re coming from your best self it will happen easily and naturally. Then you will move closer to having the relationships you want in your life. This does not just apply to girls. All of our clients notice a lot more confidence at work and start being seen in a different way. By allowing yourself to feel confident now and not just when I have that girl people will be drawn to you. Let’s be honest life is easier when your more confident you can get and give so much more
